Mother’s Day Recordings with Mom and Kids

by admin on May 5, 2011

 

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I’ve always said that raising children up to their teenage years was fulfilling and mostly fun.

What happens after that is more than a little frightening.

What childless people and kids understand:

The challenges of parenting get more intense as the years progress. I don’t think I ever had a clear understanding of what it meant to be a parent until I had children of my own.

In the beginning stages of parenting I told my mother that I was clueless as to child-rearing and she quickly agreed. “You don’t really know what’s it’s like until you raise them,” she said with a smug look on her face.

Well, if I was clueless about parenting at 34 with four college degrees, what must it be for children during their teenage years and their 20’s; I assume that they see life with parents as a one-way street that involves mostly taking and little giving.

It becomes especially difficult when they conduct their lives in ways that creates fiction.

What you remember—what they should remember:

You remember every detail as a parent. You remember the 3:00 a.m. sick calls; the homework due the next day, the fear of bullies; the bills and the anxieties of figuring out the best way to parent.

I get the sense that the only thing many kids remember is anything negative.

Maybe, just maybe grown kids need to have access to a time when mom and dad were their protectors and best friends.  Being exposed to an interview with mom when they were young creates memories that may be the best way of transporting everyone back to a time when all was mostly right with their young worlds. Mom and dad knew what to do and the kids depended on that love, that comfortable place.

Like home movies:

Like home movies, an audio interview is a way of recapturing a different time. It’s nothing more than getting mom and the kids on several phones at home and starting a recording. You get to hear the laughter and the hopes and dreams of young people secure in the knowledge that parents were there to provide, protect and unconditionally love.

Older children remember this deep in their psychology, but it gets lost when lack of money, unsupportive friends and bewilderment over their futures drives their souls.  When once protective and loving parents properly insist they fend for themselves (as all good parents do) the conflicts are inevitable.

Let all return to the audio interview when mom was ever hopeful but anxious about the right thing to do. Let all listen to the reality of being a mother; how she stretched the budget; how she was exhausted with the 3:00 a.m. sick calls but still went to work the next day.

Let the “adult” kids relive the realities of parenting through older eyes. Yes, they hear their own laughter and hopes for the future, but mom is now just another struggling and hopeful person, not a lot older than what they are now, who tried to do the best she could.

Way too often, parents are seen by their older kids as “things” that screwed up but are still good sources of needed funds.

If transported back to a different time, mom becomes just like them, just another young person trying to make their way in life with limited means.

That fact that mom succeeded means that they can too.  The fact that mom was a real person who in her time faced the same problems and won gives them hope for their own futures.

Hopefully, mom’s success becomes part of the roadmaps of their lives.

Happy Mother’s Day.

Best, Len.

 

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